Outta The Doghouse, Mood Altering Food, Divorce Myths 
07-17-2007

Tuesday we read off Maxim's tips for guys to get away with being bad. Do you eat to feel better? There are foods you can eat that will actually change your mood. We also had the top myths about divorce. We read a few on the air, but you can find the complete list here.

National Get Out of the Doghouse Day
Guys, Maxim says these tricks will keep you out of the doghouse.

  • Your computer -- Being naughty online, heh, heh? "Anything you do electronically can come back to haunt you," warns Vincent Parco, private investigator and author of "How to Catch Him With His Pants Down -- and Kick Him in His Assets." To stop her reading your e-mail (if your password's simple, she's cracked it), get a web address and send yourself a message from Candi@aol.com. Make the subject "Re: Hot Stuff," but write inside: "How can you love me if you don't trust me?" You'll be home free.
  • Your phone -- Phones are deadly, says Parco, and answering machines usually have the access code printed on them somewhere, allowing her to check your messages. The "last call"/*69 features can also do you in. Turn off *69 with the phone company, and always dial 411 after a "naughty" call. Again, she'll lay off if you trap her: Have a female co-worker leave a message about a "get-together," then tell your woman you have to work late. She'll swoop in to "bust" you only to find you working.
  • Your car -- "You know how dogs mark territory? Women do it by leaving stuff behind," reveals Parco. "They'll leave lipstick in the glove compartment or a barrette under the seat." And that can be tough to explain away. Tape a hair over the glove compartment to see if it's been rifled through, and keep a gift for her stashed in the trunk so you'll always have an excuse for secrecy.

Fix Your Mood With Food
Wouldn't it be great if you could eat your blues away (without putting on the pounds) or cure a migraine headache by munching out on your favorite foods? Well you can according to Nutrition Expert Dr. Udo Erasmus. The key is knowing which foods calm us, which sharpen our minds, which boost sex drive, and which foods lift depression and increase our confidence.

Dr. Erasmus offers these suggestions:

  • Depression -- Foods containing the essential fatty acids Omega 3 & Omega 6, like cold water tuna, salmon, trout, and mackerel, have been found to elevate mood. Flax, sunflower, and sesame seeds or their blended oils are rich vegetable sources of these two depression-lifting essential fatty acids.
  • Apathy and Mental Fatigue -- Women often find eating liver remedies oxygen and iodine levels throughout the body which helps to create an energetic attitude toward life.
  • Anger and Stress -- Turkey, chicken, and bananas contain tryptophan, a building block of serotonin, which produces a mellowing effect. Fish and seeds containing Omega 3 assist brain function, reduce stress, and promote calmness.
  • Can't Concentrate -- Improve concentration with greens on a short-term basis, a combination of flax and sunflower seeds over the long term.
  • Low Labido -- Chocolate has often been used to jump start the libido because it contains theobromine, which induces feelings of euphoria and happiness. Oysters, long considered an aphrodisiac, are rich in zinc, an important nutrient for sexual function.
  • Insomnia -- Magnesium, a muscle relaxer, can be found in green vegetables. Calcium, which works in conjunction with Magnesium, is plentiful in milk and cheese.
  • Violent Behavior -- Can be treated with fatty foods containing the essential fatty acids, or with concentrated oil supplements containing Omega 3 and Omega 6.
  • Migraine Headaches -- Five daily glasses of pure water along with regular consumption of fiber-rich food will help flush headache-producing toxins from the body.

Top 10 Myths About Divorce
Everything you think you know about divorce probably isn't true. David Popenoe, founder and co-director of the National Marriage Project at Rutgers University in New Brunswick, NJ, and the author or editor of 10 books, has compiled a list of the most common misinformation about divorce.

  1. Because people learn from their bad experiences, second marriages tend to be more successful than first marriages. The facts: The divorce rate for remarriages is actually higher than that of first marriages.
  2. Living together before marriage is a good way to reduce the chances of eventually divorcing. The facts: Numerous studies have shown that couples who cohabit before they marry have a far higher chance of divorcing. Why? It's a puzzle even to the sociologists, but they theorize that living together before taking those vows creates attitudes that are more conducive to divorce, such as thinking that relationships are temporary and can be easily ended.
  3. Divorce may cause problems for many of the children who are affected by it, but by and large these problems are not long lasting and the children recover relatively quickly. The facts: Children of divorce have a higher risk of interpersonal problems. Evidence from several studies shows that many of these problems are long lasting and may become worse when they grow into adulthood.
  4. Having a child together will help a couple improve their marital satisfaction and prevent a divorce. The facts: It is true that couples who have a child together have a slightly lowered risk of divorce than childless couples, but that decreased risk is far less than it used to be when society dictated that couples stay together "for the sake of the children."
  5. Following divorce, the woman's standard of living plummets by 73% while that of the man's improves by 42%. The facts: This widely publicized statistic was based on a faulty calculation, insists Popenoe. Instead, women lose about 27%, while men gain 10%. Yes, there is an inequity, but it's not as dramatic as everyone thinks.
  6. When parents don't get along, children are better off if their parents divorce than if they stay together. The facts: The literature is mixed on this, but a recent, long-term study suggests otherwise. Parents' unhappiness does have a negative effect on children, but so does divorce. Only children in homes with high conflict benefit when their parents separate.
  7. Because they are more cautious in entering marital relationships and also have a strong determination to avoid the possibility of divorce, children who grow up in a home broken by divorce tend to have as much success in their own marriages as those from intact homes. The facts: Children of divorce have a far higher rate of divorce for their own marriages than do their friends who came from intact families. Why? As with so much, parents are role models. They learn from observing Mom and Dad.
  8. Following divorce, the children involved are better off in stepfamilies than in single-parent families. The facts: Stepfamilies are no better than single-parent families, even though the income level is typically higher and there is a father figure in the home. Stepfamilies have their own set of unique problems and conflicts.
  9. Being very unhappy at certain points in a marriage is a good sign that the marriage will eventually end in divorce. The facts: Every marriage has its ups and downs. In one recent survey, 86% of people who admitted they were unhappy with their marriage but stayed with it, indicated five years later they were happier.
  10. It is usually men who initiate divorce proceedings. The facts: Two-thirds of all divorces are initiated by women.

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Thought of the Day
What was Captain Hook's name before he had a hook for a hand?